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#1
too much information will kill you, thats what i heard, and its true. udah beberapa kali ngalamin, pas baru hamil - mau nyari dokter, pas udah hamil - belajar perihal gizi, pas hamil 7 bulan - bikin daftar belanja, pas shaka lahir - belajar kolik, refluks, alergi, dst. dan sekarang - shaka mau mpasi. semuanya berakhir dgn berhenti. stop browsing, and start digesting. krn udh smp eneg sendiri, dalam arti sebenarnya. cuma gatau gimana kok ya tetep ga kapok2 untuk browsing lagi setiap ada 'kasus' baru.
this virtual world really cant stop amaze me with things. sampe terharu. nggak tau mau berterima kasih sama siapa *salahkan hormon pms yg ga kelar-kelar*. mungkin karena sekarang2 ini lagi rada gerah sama label google/dsa minded atau sebangsanya dari (semakin) banyak orang. as if i wont hear any advice from other (real experiences/traditional) sources. as if what i got from google are just a bunch of theories, as if my sources are all only the newest update info from only abroad, and so on.... kok malah curhat *kebiasaan*
shaka hampir 6 bulan =) my points will be added later, just find the purple highlights. udah semakin lanyah guling2an. dari telentang ke tengkurep, sumpah! udah lanyah! kalo dari tengkurep ke telentang bisa, tapi masih kalo ada maunya doang =D contoh: digodain, dipancing mainan, atau krn emg nggak sadar aja. refleks yg masih sering sering sih nyantel di posisi miring =p dan karena itullah pengamanan jadi harus semakin ketat. bahaya bener ninggalin tidur dlm keadaan telentang. akhirnya udah beli evamat buat di samping kasur, setelah 2x menemukan shaka tergeletak di lantai. 1x pas bangun pagi, 1x cuma ditinggal ambil minum. dua2nya pake cengengesan. lucu si... tapi miris euy, bawaannya pingin simulasi ulang, gimana caranya ni bocah bisa sampe situ...
iya,bocah... this mama says my baby now is already a big boy. subjektif bgt ya =D habis kayanya permainan ekspresi dan raut mukanya dan ocehannya dan nangisnya udh semakin komplit. sekarang ditambah lasaknya pun. jadi kalo pas lagi tidur, keliatan bgt perbedaannya. hening, dan be sar. sehat terus ya sayang... mungkin sebentar lagi bisa merangkak. sekarang ngesotnya jg udah bisa maju beneran, purposely, meski pake berjuang dulu. manuver kiri kanan udah canggih. notes: keamanan emg jd semakin urgen.
dan sekarang udah pinter mimik sambil posisi tiduran, belakangan suka kebiasaan tidurnya jd begitu =p is it ok? shaka udh 'bisa' tidur telentang lagi. juga semakin fasih melihat warna/barang yg atraktif, terus diraih, dikejar, dimakan...
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#2
Hari ini hari kedua MPASI. after all browsing and googling, my baby starts his 1st solid foods before 6mos, and the food was banana, real chunky banana, un-pureed =D you people labelling me with a blind google-minded actually should read this actually:
>>>1st solid food ideally (and recommended by experts & doctors) at 6mos
my explanation: i read in some articles, and experiences of mothers in abroad, that every baby has a various time to get ready to eat, commonly at 4-6months. as long as your baby seems like ready to eat, then just go. there are some signs tells it, and shaka shows them all. and its just a week before his 6mos though =p besides, traditionally, babies already be given solid food at 2mos in the old times, and they survived (that includes me i guess). and papa came home by that time =D thats a bit of my ego, i admit that.
>>>1st solid food commonly are cerealia, or the newest today's favorite, avocado
my explanation: at first i want it to avocado+milk. but it was failed by his disturbing flu. i prefer to take it slow, as it was gonna be his first time consuming solid food and also the medicines. the medication should come first, so be it. until then comes yesterday. i was eating banana, shaka seems like drooling, and in a good mood. and the banana is delicious, and seems like harmless =D then i give him half of mine to play teething, and he seems like it. then i saw it as a good start of BLW-ing (Baby Led Weaning). as i want to combine the method of BLW and conventional, then i continue to pisang kerok. ga sampe bagian tengahnya, jadi mudah2an ga bikin susah pup seperti yg sdh diinfokan dimana2. risky? yes i guess. but again, traditionally, most of people in the old times giving bananas for their baby's 1st solid foods, and the babies survived. think, they didnt even know to left the inner part that it could cause constipation.
>>>1st solid food ideally very light puree, and commonly with milk.
my explanation: i wasnt not in the mood of being perfectionist by the time, i enjoyed my baby's good mood while playing with his food. so i ignore that. besides, babies with BLW method could even survived a big chunky piece of potato or apple =p and so i think and i hope, pisang kerok wouldnt do any harm.
>>>and amen.
see, i also do things traditionally. and also trully do considering and filtering information from any sources. we're all actually just the same, wanting the best for the child.
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#3
i really adore the invention of RIM instead of RUM. RIM, Rational Instinct of Moms. Adalah plesetannya RUM, Rational Usage of Medication, yg di sisi lain juga suka diplesetin jd Refusal Use of Medicines =D baru nemu pembahasan tentang ini yg melibatkan resep antibiotik, resep obat bayi batuk pilek, puyer, dan imunisasi pneumokokus *see, how can't i not addicted to browse over symptoms and baby stuff? i even found it unpurposely*
ini seperti halnya juga menemukan label Breastfeeding Without Label (BWL), setelah setelah sekian lama browsing dan ikut forum tetep gentar menghadapi urgensi asi eksklusif. Shaka 1st milk is sufor. and lets say its caused by my lack of infos and efforts before, i cant provide enough milk stocks for him while im away. and this BWL, fully support the goodness of breastfeeding, without discriminating the use of sufor, not even a drop of it. doing breastfeed is good, and thats all. no matter if its combined with sufor or not.
kalo baru dpt info baru kdg2 rasanya ketinggalaaan bgt. mama2 yg lain itu canggih2 bgt. kandungan obat, jadwal imunisasi, kandungan vaksin, resep mpasi, urut2an makanan, dst. its like a never ending feeling of being newbie. makanya bacain dialog di forum, atau artikel asuhan dr, atau website luar, pengaruhnya jd gede bgt. spt skrg shaka udh mulai mpasi jg sbnrnya masih ada banyak pertanyaan, seperti, gimana caranya kita tau porsinya udah cukup? gimana taunya kalo shaka udah kenyang? kapan perlu nambahin porsi? sebanyak apa shaka sebaiknya minum air putih setelah makan? gimana takaran bubur susu nya? kalo langsung pake air aja gimana? ...tapi yg udah berjalan harus berjalan. jd cm bisa insyaallah info yg udh didapet berguna buat pegangan (dan tetep browsing case by case).
nggak boleh bingung. karena kalo mamanya bingung, mbaknya ikut bingung, kalo mbaknya bingung, pasti dia inisiatif tanya2 tetangga, lebih banyak lagi info yg masuk, pada akhirnya bikin mamanya tambah bingung. karena kalo mamanya bingung, papanya lebih bingung, udah jauh bawaannya kuatir, nggak asik deh pokoknya. karena kalo mamanya bingung, mesti lebih susah hura-hura, anaknya ikut bingung deh =D jadi mamanya nggak bingung. hihihi...
mungkin itu contoh kenapa belakangan kerasa positif bgt ikutan forum dan blogwalking. nggak terlalu merasa bingung sendirian. seperti pasca melahirkan bulan pertama, blog-nya chia sungguh sangat membantu meredakan emosi dan tendensi baby blues a.k.a post natal depression. accepting the feeling, that its just common.
spt setelah ngubek2 beberapa forum, pilihannya ternyata jatuh ke urban mama. paling nyaman disitu =) mungkin karena background membernya relatif mirip tk jadi terasa familiar. mungkin jg karena slogannya. it tells all: there is always a different story in every parenting style. it means: there are different stories, there are a lot of parenting styles, dan semuanya halal =D
habis tk sharing sama siapa lagiiiii =p i need to talk and discuss about my baby. i need to find info about my baby. but it seems hard to do that in real. every words spoken tend to be considered as either an offense or defense. ngobrol sama single friends rentan jadi org tua yg ngomongin anaknya terus, rentan jadi mama baru yg ngomongin ttg parenting terus. ngobrol sama friends/relatives with babies rentan berakhir dgn label internet-minded, atau malah jd seperti ngotot2an dgn cara mengasuh bayi masing2 =p i dont want to be that kind of yucky moms.
and somehow, slogannya urban mama bikin tk lebih tenang, mudah2an bikin lebih bijaksana jg =) belakangan agak menghindari memberi masukan/info tanpa diminta. kecuali kalo yg sifatnya lumayan fatal kalo nggak dikasitau kasian anaknya... meski pada akhirnya ya terserah org tuanya si, tp kan paling nggak udah dikasi tau... *kalo yg itu emg udh jd kebiasaan =p maaf... tk akan sebisa mungkin mana yg fatal mana yg nggak...* anyhow, think every child needs their parents to be calm and have faith.
bismillah, insyaallah, amin. alhamdulillah...
:.....oh i know it this is gonna be a long posting... its been a while euy... kemaren2 rumah rame bener, baru skrg rehat deh =):
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#4
sejujurnya belakangan lg mulai resah sama persoalan finansial =D gyaaah! ini cicilan 4jt tiap bulannya udah nggak kekejar. meski kalo review emg nggak ada 'uang ilang' tapi habis ini bener2 harus irit. bahkan untuk shaka *karena ternyata belanja terbanyak emg buat shaka =p yg mana ternyata emg jd penyakit setiap mama baru* no more toys, fancy items and tools, habisin stok kioshaka segera, cairin allianz. maaf ya adeeek... but anyhow i will still buy you the playpen and highchair ^^v gyah!
terus berhitung ulang untuk rumah, sehingga uang pinjaman nggak cuma habis buat bayar cicilannya, rumah bisa segera dibangun, dan bisa ditempatin per maret 2011..... GYAH! target yg gila2an ya sebenernya.... tapi kalo nggak gitu berarti harus bayar kontrakan lagi, dan dgn kondisi finansial sekarang, akan semakin nggak kekejar utk bayar cicilan... amiiin...
but in the mean time, lately i often found myself unconsciously staring at everything near and get sunk in a deep grace. my baby, my rooms, my house, my stuffs, stuffs for my baby, and else, that they're all seems so much like luxurious magic. manifestasi resah kali yah =p fuh..... anyhow hope it helps to bring some positive energy for many days ahead. selebihnya adalah, HARUS BERTINDAK!
sehingga isyu sekolah shaka jadi ikut muncul. hitung2an biaya pendidikan ikut bikin gila. the good thing comes together with it, i found some articles about investing. keyword awalnya adalah tabungan pendidikan atau asuransi pendidikan, then i ended up in keyword reksadana. dont know anything about it. it seems too complicated, too difficult, too technical. it seems not in my coverage area.
tapi karena harus bertindak tadi =p i have to digest it. perkembangan terakhir adalah, tertarik untuk mulai reksadana resiko rendah (reksadana ada 4 jenis, 2 jenis diantaranya resiko rendah, tapi lupa namanya apa, its still blurry to me though), dan bank yg paling recommended untuk itu adalah commonwealth (gyakh, bank apa lagi tu...). berhenti disitu. sekarang lagi clingak-clinguk ada nggak bank commonwealth di seputaran bintaro, maksudnya mau didatengin dan tanya2 (setelah udah nyempetin masuk bank niaga untuk tanya2 ttg tabungan pendidikannya yg terkenal itu) i'll take it slow.
and guess what, oma kemaren nanyain, "tik, kamu mau nggak diprospek temenku, aku nggak enak nih udah nolak terus, padahal temen deket. nggak harus mau nggak papa, kan di rumah jg bisa"
...udah males "ha, diprospek apaan..."
"apa ya, mama jg nggak gitu jelas, investasi2 gitu, ...danareksa apa ya", setelah beberapa kali salah nyebut namanya...
wink, mulai tertarik... "perusahaannya apa, bank nya apa?"
"commonwealth. mama juga nggak tau juga sih bank itu,... tapi nggak harus mau kok. didengerin aja", oma mulai ga pede nyebut nama bank yg nggak umum.
gyaaah! kok pas banget..... "iya deh, mau cobain, nggak harus mau kan..."
hope thats trully a good sign... what a super coincidence... bismillah yah...
:menarik nafas... this really is a long posting for me, and a super long posting as a mom =p it takes me 3 days to finis writing... hihihi:
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#5
i am a female. im sorry, but I will always have a little essence of me. i am a wife. trust me, im always in a way to eliminate my self as well. i am a mother. and even when im becoming a female and a wife, i will always be a mother.
do you see my point, baby?
i am only such a selfish female of me, if I couldnt let you out of my hug. i am only be a spoiled wife of your papa, if I could only trust him to give you a hug. its because and only because I am a mother, or at least properly try to be one, that I would let go of your hug, and still considerately smiling.
I will just always be here.
ps: and so i pleased you (later) dear, go fly up high ^^
